Recovery: Becoming the Family Leader Your Kids and Spouse Need

Especially once you have children, the need for a set head of the household becomes increasingly evident. To maintain a sound family structure, it is imperative that there is a set person in charge, in combination with the other parent.

The head of the household is needed to ensure the family is taken care of and stable financially, emotionally and spiritually. However, when things like addiction creep into your home this can disturb the sound family order – especially if the one affected is the head of the household.

Family

Once the addiction has crept in and the family order has been disturbed, how do you restore it following addiction recovery?

Ask for help from your spouse.

During the time of addiction, your spouse might have had to step in and fill your shoes. Ask them for help – see what they have been doing and if anything has changed since your recovery, ask them for help transitioning back into your role as family leader. It takes two people working together to make a family successful, so don’t be afraid to ask your spouse for help re-enforcing that you are the head of the household.

Use this time to make changes.

If you want to change any of the current structurings of your household, now is the time to do it. As you readjust, lay out a list of set rules, a set budget and the set structure of the family. Make sure it is clear to everyone who is in charge and what is going on. This will ensure everyone is on the same page, working toward the same goal to avoid turmoil and be more efficient.

Seek Godly advice.

Reinvent yourself and invest in your spiritual life again. Get a mentor or someone you can talk to who will offer Godly advice and will help put you back on the right path. They will also be able to show you some tips along the way that make the process easier and clearer.

The head of the household is especially important in the lives of your children. Be a good role model and show them that it is possible to overcome addiction and sin. The ultimate treat, once you have overcome addiction, will be seeing your family restored back to a happy and healthy family – spiritually, physically, financially and emotionally. You will begin to reap the benefits of all your hard work both in your marriage and in the new relationship you have with your children.

Overwhelmed by Addiction: How to Heal the Hurting in Your Safe Haven

Drug addiction, amongst other addictions, is a serious epidemic that is becoming increasingly more prevalent in our homes, schools, and churches. It is estimated that about 208 million people internationally consume illegal drugs. One of the most prevalent issues amongst drug addiction right now is individual’s addiction to prescription pain killers – opioids.

Unfortunately, the church has become overwhelmed with addiction – marriages are ending, lives are being taken too soon, and kids and parents alike are suffering due to the actions of their loved ones. Sadly, this often creates a divide in our church. There are those suffering visibly, those suffering in silence, and those who just feel they are too good to be involved with either party.

But, how are these actions helping heal our church, our safe haven, and place of worship?

As brothers and sisters in Christ, we should be helping each other. And as Christ followers, we should be doing everything we can to rid our place of worship of the evil one and the drug addiction he has brought upon us.

Reach out if you think someone is hurting.

Talk to those around you and find out what is going on in their lives. If you suspect someone is struggling, offer them your love, advice, and prayers. The most important part of recovery is having helping hands and support along the way. One of the quickest ways to heal your church is to find out who is in need. Offer a helping hand to anyone who might need it and walk with them along their road to recovery.   Christian Alcohol Treatment Centers can be one of the best options for treating addiction, Spirit, soul, body.

Christian Addiction Treatment Programs Can Help

Stop looking the other way.

Avoiding a situation does not make it any better. Rather than looking the other way because you are too embarrassed to ask if someone is struggling, ask God to give you the strength to help them however they might need it. By turning the other cheek, they might even assume you don’t care or are ashamed of them. It is always better to at least try to help someone and fail rather than not try at all.

Never turn your nose up.

Just because you sin differently does not make you any better than the person in the next pew ahead. Regardless of the drug or the addiction, do not turn your nose up. Remain humble and genuine, offering the person the support they need.

In the modern day, where addiction has become more prevalent than ever, it is important that we fight to keep our church clean. But, remember it is also our safe haven, so while we should try to rid it of sin, we should do so in a loving way – offering help and support to those who need it.

3 Reasons Why Addiction is Killing Your Witness

Skeletons in the closet – we all have them. Secrets are part of life, and some secrets are worse than others.

Some people suffer from anger issues, some are alcoholics, for others it might be a pornography addiction and for some it is a drug addiction. Unfortunately, several people in the world are suffering from a drug addiction, and more so recently due to the outrageous opioid epidemic sweeping our world today.

In reality, your addiction might not be that bad – you still go to work, hang out with your family and attend church weekly. As long as you are functional, what harm could it really be doing?

Right? Wrong.

Dig beneath the surface. Drug addiction is not a victimless crime and it does come with consequences.

While you might continue to witness to others about your Savior, you are secretly killing your witness as you sit in your comfort zone and struggle with drug addiction:

1. You are not being truthful.

While some people may not know you are ill and only portraying that you are not struggling, you are lying to them. You cannot truly allow yourself to open up and share the love of Christ with them without being honest.

2. You are missing out on the greatness witness story of all time.

Addiction can be cured with God – through Him all things are possible, after all. One of the greatest tools of your witness is waiting for you, it is right in front of you. What an incredible story it would be to share with others how God has worked in your life and helped you recover from addiction. However, by hiding that you even have a problem, you are missing out on that witness.

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3. You are actively living in sin.

Your witness is damaged when you are actively living in sin with no intentions of repentance. Sin is normal, it is part of life and we all do it at several points in our lives, however, we should always be looking to improve and get away from it. You should not continue to knowingly live a sinful life while trying to teach others how to escape sin.

For just a moment, take a step back and consider how drug addiction is affecting your life and your witness. It might actually be a good time to consider how to change your life before trying to help others change theirs.

Going Through the Motions: Worship, Addiction, Repent, Repeat

As humans, and as Christians, it can be easy to get into the habit of doing things. In fact, statistics show that it only takes about 21 consecutive days of doing something for it to become a habit. As we do our routine more and more, it becomes a habit. Think about your everyday life: you wake up, prepare for the day, go to work, come home, eat dinner, and go to bed – it’s that simple, that is a routine and a habit.

In our spiritual life, this is no different…

Go to church, repent, go back to our everyday life, and repeat the next week.

It can be easy to fall into the habit of repenting while you are at church, but somehow falling right back into the same sinful trap as soon as you leave. It is all part of the mask we tend to wear within the church – the mask of holiness and cleanliness. Rather than letting people know we are hurting and struggling, rather than asking them to help us, we want people to be under the impression that we are perfect.

Drug addiction is an ugly thing and one that nobody likes to talk about – especially the addict themselves.

Drug Addiction

It can poke its ugly head into our lives and destroy everything – families, friendships, and even jobs. So, this is why addicts like to keep quiet. It is as if by not telling anyone, nobody will ever know and therefore their relationships can’t be ruined. However, this is wrong.

The evil of addiction will continue to tear through you until it reaches the outside and until it starts affecting everything around you.

Many addicts struggle throughout the week, then go to church and uphold their image and composure, pray and ask God for forgiveness as the Spirit moves over them during worship, but come Monday morning, they are right back to their normal routine.

As Christians and individuals, they are just simply going through the motions. They are going through the motions of repenting to feel better, going through the motions of worshipping to uphold their image.

However, true freedom comes when you stop pretending and when you stop going through the motions. As an addict, hop off the “worship, addiction, repent, repeat” train and seek help and forgiveness. All too often people assume the skeletons in the closet will never come out, but unfortunately, they will. When they arrive unannounced, it will be much uglier.

Don’t continue to be lukewarm and repetitive, and fake. Don’t hide behind your addiction, as it is probably doing more damage than it would if you just came out and admitted you have a problem.